May 29th, 2009 It’s not ‘Falling in Love’
When I hear someone tell me they are ‘Falling in Love’, I laugh. For me that term doesn’t make sense if one really analyzes it. I remember the first time one of my boyfriends said that to me, ‘I think I’m falling in Love’ with you. We were staying at one of Phuket Best Hotels having a very romantic dinner and really enjoying each others company when he said that to me. I asked him, ‘What do you mean ‘Falling’?, I said, ‘Either you love me or you don’t. I don’t think there’s any ‘falling’ about it.’ I know, that completely ruined the moment, right? But, really, I mean ‘Falling’, what is that?
It is a gauge. It a safety net. Just in case the person you are completely ‘in love with’, (another term I will analyze later), does not feel the same way. Come on, don’t you think you would know if the person you are supposedly in ‘love’ with is also in love with you. For me, if you don’t know then you really should figure out what or why you are ignoring the signs or why you aren’t accepting the tell tale signs that someone does or does not love you. So, start truly and really paying attention to the person you love. The signs are there.
So, next time you are in the company of someone you do love, but haven’t expressed it yet, step back a moment and question as to why you want to say ‘I’m falling in love with you,’ or even worse, ‘I think I’m falling in love with you,’ because this means, for some reason, if the person you ‘do’ love does not respond in kind, you will feel embarrassed or silly about loving that person. That love is a wrong feeling. I know, for myself, when I find I do love my boyfriend it doesn’t matter if he’s not in love with me. But, I pay attention to those tell-tell signs that he too loves me back. Celebrate that you love and don’t worry about it if it’s not reciprocated. A you will then experience true love, unconditional love.
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